Patience is our Interest Earned Love is our Dividend Children are our Bonus Issues Education is Brands / Patents Knowledge is our Investment Experience is our Premium Account The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately. The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Some very Good and Very bad things .. The most destructive habit....... ........ ......Worry The greatest Joy......... ......... ......... ....Giving The greatest loss..................Loss of self-respect The most satisfying work......... ........Helping others The ugliest personality trait....... ….......Selfishness The most endangered species..... ....Dedicated leaders Our greatest natural resource.... ......... ......Our youth The greatest 'shot in the arm'........ .Encouragement The greatest problem to overcome.... ......... ...Fear The most effective sleeping pill....... Peace of mind The most crippling failure disease...... .......Excuses The most powerful force in life........ ........... Love The most dangerous act...... ………….A gossip The world's most incredible computer.... ....The brain The worst thing to be without..... ......... ..... Hope The deadliest weapon...... ........ .........The tongue The two most power-filled words....... .... 'I Can' The greatest asset....... .......... ......... ...........Faith The most worthless emotion.... .......... ....Self- pity The most beautiful attire...... ......... .........SMILE! The most prized possession.. ........ ….....Integrity The most powerful channel of communication. ..Prayer The most contagious spirit...... ......... ......Enthusiasm Life ends; when you stop Dreaming, Hope ends; when you stop Believing, Love ends; when you stop Caring, And Friendship ends; when you stop Sharing...!!!
(sent by bro Najumuddin)
PLEASE WATCH THIS YOU TUBE CLIPPINGS- A MUST WATCH
(sent by sis Mariam R. Jiwa)
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| SELECTED MAXIMS OF IMAM REDHA (A.S.) | for everyone |
| HEALTH TIPS BY IMAM REDHA (A.S.) | for everyone |
| SAYINGS OF IMAM JA'FAR AS-SADIQ (A.S.) | for everyone |
| SAYINGS OF IMAM JA'FAR AS-SADIQ (A.S.) | for everyone |
| Allah always is with us. | for everyone |
I asked Allah why I wasn't rich.
He showed me a man with the wealth of a thousand kings,
Who was lonely, and had no one to share it with.
I asked Allah why I wasn't beautiful.
He showed me a woman more beautiful than any other,
Who was ugly because of her vanity?
I asked Allah why He'd allowed me to become old.
He showed me a boy of 16, who lay dead at the scene of a car accident.
I asked Allah why I didn't have a bigger house.
He showed me a family of six,
who had just been evicted from their tiny shack,
And were forced, to live on the street.
He showed me a man with the wealth of a thousand kings,
Who was lonely, and had no one to share it with.
I asked Allah why I wasn't beautiful.
He showed me a woman more beautiful than any other,
Who was ugly because of her vanity?
I asked Allah why He'd allowed me to become old.
He showed me a boy of 16, who lay dead at the scene of a car accident.
I asked Allah why I didn't have a bigger house.
He showed me a family of six,
who had just been evicted from their tiny shack,
And were forced, to live on the street.
I asked Allah why I had to work.
He showed me a man, who couldn't find a decent job,
Because he'd never learned to read.
I asked Allah why I wasn't more popular.
He showed me a socialite with a thousand friends,
Who all left the moment the money and parties were no longer there.
I asked Allah why I wasn't smarter.
He showed me a natural born genius,
Serving life in prison for making ill use of his knowledge.
I asked Allah why He put up with a thankless sinner like me.
He showed me a man, who couldn't find a decent job,
Because he'd never learned to read.
I asked Allah why I wasn't more popular.
He showed me a socialite with a thousand friends,
Who all left the moment the money and parties were no longer there.
I asked Allah why I wasn't smarter.
He showed me a natural born genius,
Serving life in prison for making ill use of his knowledge.
I asked Allah why He put up with a thankless sinner like me.
Have a WONDERFUL day!
Then brighten someone else's day, in any way you care to.
Then brighten someone else's day, in any way you care to.
Remember, a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.
Just reach out and touch someone's life and brighten up his or her day
Just reach out and touch someone's life and brighten up his or her day
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I've Been Through The Storm, But Look At Me I'm Still Standing, and I’m Still Here.........
If it doesn't kill you... it will make you stronger.
If it doesn't kill you... it will make you stronger.
What's eating you today?
Are your problems weighing heavy on your heart?
Know, then, that you are loved.
Are your problems weighing heavy on your heart?
Know, then, that you are loved.
Allah always is with us.
(sent by sis Mariam R. Jiwa)
| ONIONS | for everyone |
Very Important Subject....especially for those who love to cook and eat ONIONS!!!!!!
ONION
In 1919 when the flu killed 40 million people there was this Doctor that visited the many farmers to see if he could help them combat the flu.
Many of the farmers and their family had contracted it and many died.
The doctor came upon this one farmer and to his surprise, everyone was very healthy.. When the doctor asked what the farmer was doing that was different the wife replied that she had placed an unpeeled onion in a dish in the rooms of the home, (probably only two rooms back then). The doctor couldn't believe it and asked if he could have one of the onions and place it under the microscope. She gave him one and when he did this, he did find the flu virus in the onion. It obviously absorbed the bacteria, therefore, keeping the family healthy.
Now, I heard this story from my hairdresser in AZ.. She said that several years ago many of her employees were coming down with the flu and so were many of her customers. The next year she placed several bowls with onions around in her shop. To her surprise, none of her staff got sick. It must work.. (And no, she is not in the onion business.)
The moral of the story is, buy some onions and place them in bowls around your home. If you work at a desk, place one or two in your office or under your desk or even on top somewhere. Try it and see what happens. We did it last year and we never got the flu.
If this helps you and your loved ones from getting sick, all the better. If you do get the flu, it just might be a mild case..
Whatever, what have you to lose? Just a few bucks on onions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now there is a P. S. to this for I sent it to a friend in Oregon who regularly contributes material to me on health issues. She replied with this most interesting experience about onions:
Weldon,thanks for the reminder. I don't know about the farmers story....but, I do know that I contacted pneumonia and needless to say I was very ill...I came across an article that said to cut both ends off an onion put one end on a fork and then place the forked end into an empty jar...placing the jar next to the sick patient at night. It said the onion would be black in the
morning from the germs...sure enough it happened just like that...the onion was a mess and I began to feel better.
Another thing I read in the article was that onions and garlic placed around the room saved many from the black plague years ago. They have powerful antibacterial, antiseptic properties.
This is the other note.
LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS
I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge, and sometimes I
don't use a whole one at one time, so save the other half for later.
Now with this info, I have changed my mind....will buy smaller onions in
the future.
I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of
mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in
the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO.
Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I
learned from a chemist..
The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula.
He's even developed sauce formula for McDonald's.
Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone
asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always
worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said
that all commercially- made Mayo is completely safe..
"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but
it's not really necessary." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set
at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then
talked about the quaint essential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad
sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick.
Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials
look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade Mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the
onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.
He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked
onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your
refrigerator.
It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit,
that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you
put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!)
Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy you'll
probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your
sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato
in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any
commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.
So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going
ONION
In 1919 when the flu killed 40 million people there was this Doctor that visited the many farmers to see if he could help them combat the flu.
Many of the farmers and their family had contracted it and many died.
The doctor came upon this one farmer and to his surprise, everyone was very healthy.. When the doctor asked what the farmer was doing that was different the wife replied that she had placed an unpeeled onion in a dish in the rooms of the home, (probably only two rooms back then). The doctor couldn't believe it and asked if he could have one of the onions and place it under the microscope. She gave him one and when he did this, he did find the flu virus in the onion. It obviously absorbed the bacteria, therefore, keeping the family healthy.
Now, I heard this story from my hairdresser in AZ.. She said that several years ago many of her employees were coming down with the flu and so were many of her customers. The next year she placed several bowls with onions around in her shop. To her surprise, none of her staff got sick. It must work.. (And no, she is not in the onion business.)
The moral of the story is, buy some onions and place them in bowls around your home. If you work at a desk, place one or two in your office or under your desk or even on top somewhere. Try it and see what happens. We did it last year and we never got the flu.
If this helps you and your loved ones from getting sick, all the better. If you do get the flu, it just might be a mild case..
Whatever, what have you to lose? Just a few bucks on onions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now there is a P. S. to this for I sent it to a friend in Oregon who regularly contributes material to me on health issues. She replied with this most interesting experience about onions:
Weldon,thanks for the reminder. I don't know about the farmers story....but, I do know that I contacted pneumonia and needless to say I was very ill...I came across an article that said to cut both ends off an onion put one end on a fork and then place the forked end into an empty jar...placing the jar next to the sick patient at night. It said the onion would be black in the
morning from the germs...sure enough it happened just like that...the onion was a mess and I began to feel better.
Another thing I read in the article was that onions and garlic placed around the room saved many from the black plague years ago. They have powerful antibacterial, antiseptic properties.
This is the other note.
LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS
I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge, and sometimes I
don't use a whole one at one time, so save the other half for later.
Now with this info, I have changed my mind....will buy smaller onions in
the future.
I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of
mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in
the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO.
Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I
learned from a chemist..
The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula.
Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone
asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always
worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said
that all commercially- made Mayo is completely safe..
"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but
it's not really necessary." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set
at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then
talked about the quaint essential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad
sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick.
Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials
look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade Mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the
onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.
He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked
onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your
refrigerator.
It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit,
that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you
put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!)
Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy you'll
probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your
sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato
in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any
commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.
So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going
to be very careful about my onions from now on. For some reason,
I see a lot of credibility coming from a chemist and a company that
produces millions of pounds of mayonnaise every year.'
Also,
Also,
dogs should never eat onions.
Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions .
Please remember it is dangerous to cut onions and try to use it to cook the next day ,
it becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and
creates Toxic bacteria which may cause Adverse Stomach infections
because of excess Bile secretions and even Food poisoning.
Please pass it on to all you love and care.
Please pass it on to all you love and care.
Very Interesting,don't delete it till you read it all.
(sent by bro Najumuddin- forwarded msg not verified)
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| ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR MOM | for everyone |
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| EFFECT OF EMOTIONS!!! | for everyone |
How emotions affect communication
Why do you think you feel bad when you see a poor miserable man in the street? Apart from feeling guilty for not helping poor people there would still be some sad emotions that you will experience upon seeing anybody who suffers.
Do you know why you experience these emotions? It’s because you have experienced some of the man’s pain at the moment you saw him!!
We humans usually absorb some of the emotions of the person we are watching or listening to and then experience a change in our own mood even though nothing bad happened to us.
Avoiding the absorption of bad emotions
Lots of people experience a change in mood without knowing why and in many cases the change in mood Is just a result of absorbing someone else’s emotions. After knowing how emotions affect communication you should do the following in order to have a good mood:
- Avoid negative people If possible: because they will unintentionally transfer their emotions to you
- Keep an eye on your own emotions: So that you don’t confuse them with the emotions you absorb from other people
- Act confident : When you act confidently people will feel relaxed around you and you will have better social relations
In this article I will explain how emotions affect communication between people.
Emotions are communicated to the people we deal with
Why do you think you feel scared in horror movies when you see actors feeling scared? It’s because their emotions were communicated to you through their gestures and facial expressions.
Why do you think we like confident people? In the Solid Self confidence program I explained how confident people transfer their emotions to us and make us feel relaxed and calm.
On the other hand people who are anxious unconsciously transfer to us some of their anxiety and this makes us feel uneasy around them.
I am sure you have experienced being with someone who is overly stressed and then ended up beingstressed too!! In short emotions are communicated to us by the people we deal with whether we notice it or not.
| BLAME IT ON RIO ??? | for everyone |
Blaming others for your problems
We all dealt with people who blame others all the time and who try to appear to be right by making others appear to be wrong.
Such people are usually afraid to admit that they share a part of the responsibility and so feel more comfortable when someone else carries the blame for a bad thing that happened to them.
Sometimes the act of blaming others can be a cry of pain and a request for support, when the person desperately wants someone else to fix something for him he might blame him in order to motivate himto take action.
All of these kinds of blame are obvious and can be noticed by any person without difficulty but there is a more dangerous type of blaming that is too vague to be noticed and in the same time so powerful and effective to the extent that the person who gets the blame might feel that he is wrong even if he was right.
Blaming others the vague way
"You are Selfish and you only think about yourself"
While this statement can be said to a selfish person it can also come out of a person who was hurt and who found no other way to feel better other than blaming someone else for the pain he feels.
Instead of saying I felt bad because you left me alone that day he denied the responsibility by throwing the blame on someone else.
The same goes for telling someone that he is arrogant instead of admitting that you were afraid that he didn’t like you. Sometimes we give labels to other people such as selfish, arrogant or stubborn in order to get rid of the responsibility and to escape from solving our problems.
It’s much harder to take actions, to solve our problems and to get rid of our emotional wounds than to just blame someone else for our pain.
How to stop blaming others?
- Your childhood & blaming others::If you blame others for your problems then most probably you are still attached to the way you used to be as a child. Children always blame others because they haven’t yet learned how to be responsible for their actions.
- Acceptance and blame: Blaming others is usually an indication of the lack of ability to accept and cope with different situations that occur. Learning how to accept things the right way will certainly help you stop blaming others.
- Weakness & Blaming others:The person who blames others is usually in the week position and he tries to gain some power over the situation by blaming other people. If you want to stop blaming others then you should learn how to become in control of your life, how to be stronger and how to face different life problems.
| CHANGE PEOPLE'S BEHAVIOR ?? | for everyone |
How to change people's behavior
Our self concept determines to a great extent the way we see ourselves and the way we behave. If a person believed that he is a failure then he will most likely try to prove it by choosing hard challenges that he can’t do well at.
A research has found that confident people tend to choose reachable and challenging goals while those who lack self confidence either avoid setting goals or go for extremely hard ones.
Few days ago I was watching the African cup finals and I noticed how a brand new team player in the Egyptian team who is called Gedo scored more goals that all other players in the tournament.
As soon as Gedo entered the playground people kept screaming his name out loud and thus made him feel that they are expecting a goal from him. The guy didn’t fail them each time and he always scored goals, but why did this happen?
Because they changed his own self concept and made him believe that he is a great soccer player through their encouragement he did his best to prove them true and scored goals!!
Changing someone by changing his self concept
If you managed to make someone believe that he can do something then he will do it. Because people kept cheering for the soccer player Gedo he believed them and then worked on proving his new self concept true.
Changing someone’s behavior is all about changing his self concept and making him believe that he can change.
But the question is, why did they cheer for that specific player instead of cheering for others? Simply because that player performed well many times until they believed in him and starting supporting him.
So there is another step involved in the change, before someone can be encouraged to become someone else he has first to prove that he is capable of changing to the better.
Change comes from within and from the outside too
If someone decided to change his behavior and worked on it people will notice the change and will encourage him to be even better. This encouragement will further strengthen his new self concept and will help him maintain his new behavior.
In the Solid Self confidence program I explained how a person can change by deciding to change and how he can also change as a result of the new self concept imposed on him by his peers. This is similar to peer pressure but with the only difference is that the person happily accepts this new self concept instead of being forced to accept something that he doesn’t like.
If you want to change someone’s behavior then instead of criticizing him let him believe that he can do better and he will change. On the other hand if you want to change your own behavior then start by your inner world and sooner or later you will reflect your new self concept upon the world.
| FEELING DOWN ??? | for everyone |
Are you feeling down?
Sometimes you find your life flowing in directions that you haven't anticipated. You may feel depressed about something that happened in the past, or anxious about something that may yet happen. You may find yourself feeling lonely even when you're not alone, unsuccessful although you’ve tried hard, lacking confidence although you lack no resources, broken-hearted because someone left you, or even worse - feeling bad without knowing why.
Unfortunately, unlike machines or gadgets, which are easy enough to fix, knowing how to treat one’s own problems may elude many. The human being is the ultimate machine, if you know how to use it well; you will be able to take control of your life instead of letting it control you. You will be able to succeed under any conditions and you will be able to live a happy life.
How to get over someone
Contrary to common beliefs you can get over any person in few weeks if you applied the right advices. I know you are now wondering how would that happen or even thinking that its impossible but the reason you are wondering is that the media has programmed you to believe that breakups let people suffer for extended periods while in fact reality is completely different.
As a result of the tens of romantic movies that you saw, the hundreds of the romantic songs that you listened to and the thousands of words you heard from uneducated people you started to believe that getting over someone is very hard if not impossible.
In this article I will I show you the right way to get over someone by giving you solid facts and tips that are backed by psychology and that were tested successfully on millions of people who visited 2knowmyself.
Why do we fail to forget someone quickly
Before you can learn how to get over someone quickly you must first understand the reasons that prevent you from forgetting that person. One or more of the following reasons is usually the cause behind not being able to get over someone:
- The relationship was a method of compensation: Of course without being aware, lots of people seek relationships because they feel lonely, lack confidence or need emotional support. Had those people learned how to deal with loneliness, build their confidence and become emotionally stronger they wouldn’t have fell in love with someone to fill an emotional Gap but they would have chosen someone that they really loved
- Thinking that he was the one: I have explained numerous times that we fall in love with those who match most of our subconscious criteria. This simply means that finding someone who matches 50 conditions out of the 70 we have doesn’t mean that we can’t find someone who matches 55. There are hundreds of potential partners awaiting us out there but the media has programmed our minds to believe that only one suits us (see The psychology of love)
- Everything reminds me of him: When Pavlov made his fist experiment on dogs he found that he could associate the sound of the bell with meal time so that the dog salivates whenever the bell is rang. After the bell was rang several times without the meal being served the dog stopped salivating. In short, even if everything reminds you of a person, as long as you don’t give up to these thoughts they will fade away quickly as the time passes (see Everything reminds me of him).
- The effect of the media: You might ask yourself why didn’t the great memories fade yet even though the relationship ended long ago? Because you have been strengthening them by listening to sad music, romantic songs, remembering the person and keeping the small items that remind you of him at home. When one event reminds us of the other both events are said to be anchored. Anchors weaken and fade on their own unless they are strengthened. In my book How to get over anyone in few days I advised everyone to burn the old letters, eat the chocolates and get rid of the gifts if they always remind him of the old relationship
- The horrible feelings people get after breakups: One of the main reasons people fail to get over someone is the bad feelings they get after breakups however if you knew that most of these bad feelings are not by any means related to the person you loved you will get over him easily!! Your hurt Ego, your worries about the future, your loneliness, losing an intimate partner who used to listen to you and losing a good pain killer are all factors that can make you feel bad after a breakup and are all not related to the person you loved but to your own personal problems (seeHow to feel better after a breakup
How to get over anyone in 2 weeks
Based on the previous facts here are some advices that will surely help you get over anyone quickly:
- Tell your subconscious mind that its over: In my article the anatomy of acceptance I explained how acceptance never happens before hope is completely lost. We do accept the death of the loved ones because we become convinced that they will never come back. In order to forget someone you must insist on hearing from him that it’s impossible to get back together. You should even attend his wedding if you can in order to let your subconscious mind believe that its over.
- He was the one and there will be another one: there are lots of "ones" awaiting you out there but its just the effect of the media programming that made you believe that you won’t find someone else like him. Yes you might not find the same exact person again but you can surely find someone better!! (someone who matches more conditions of your subconscious criteria)
- Stop bargaining: If you kept going to the same places you used to go to together, kept listening to sad songs or kept day dreaming then you are sending clear message to your subconscious mind that you still have hope!! As long as hope is there acceptance would never happen. If he bought you a chocolate when you were together then Eat it now to prove to your mind that its over!!
- Was it love addiction?: if you are like the majority who seek relationships to get over other personal problems like loneliness, lack of confidence or depression then its time to fix yourself and deal with these personal problems so that you don’t fall in love with a person just to feel good instead of falling in love with him because you really like him
We can summarize all of the previous advices into few lines, the main reasons people never recover from breakups quickly is that they have built false beliefs that were fed to them by the media. As time passes they keep strengthening these beliefs through incorrect acts and that’s why they never recover quickly.
Correct your beliefs, stop strengthening the memories and they will dry and fall just like an old leaf. Getting over someone is easy but you need to do it the right way.
How to get over someone
Contrary to common beliefs you can get over any person in few weeks if you applied the right advices. I know you are now wondering how would that happen or even thinking that its impossible but the reason you are wondering is that the media has programmed you to believe that breakups let people suffer for extended periods while in fact reality is completely different.
As a result of the tens of romantic movies that you saw, the hundreds of the romantic songs that you listened to and the thousands of words you heard from uneducated people you started to believe that getting over someone is very hard if not impossible.
In this article I will I show you the right way to get over someone by giving you solid facts and tips that are backed by psychology and that were tested successfully on millions of people who visited 2knowmyself.
Why do we fail to forget someone quickly
Before you can learn how to get over someone quickly you must first understand the reasons that prevent you from forgetting that person. One or more of the following reasons is usually the cause behind not being able to get over someone:
- The relationship was a method of compensation: Of course without being aware, lots of people seek relationships because they feel lonely, lack confidence or need emotional support. Had those people learned how to deal with loneliness, build their confidence and become emotionally stronger they wouldn’t have fell in love with someone to fill an emotional Gap but they would have chosen someone that they really loved
- Thinking that he was the one: I have explained numerous times that we fall in love with those who match most of our subconscious criteria. This simply means that finding someone who matches 50 conditions out of the 70 we have doesn’t mean that we can’t find someone who matches 55. There are hundreds of potential partners awaiting us out there but the media has programmed our minds to believe that only one suits us (see The psychology of love)
- Everything reminds me of him: When Pavlov made his fist experiment on dogs he found that he could associate the sound of the bell with meal time so that the dog salivates whenever the bell is rang. After the bell was rang several times without the meal being served the dog stopped salivating. In short, even if everything reminds you of a person, as long as you don’t give up to these thoughts they will fade away quickly as the time passes (see Everything reminds me of him).
- The effect of the media: You might ask yourself why didn’t the great memories fade yet even though the relationship ended long ago? Because you have been strengthening them by listening to sad music, romantic songs, remembering the person and keeping the small items that remind you of him at home. When one event reminds us of the other both events are said to be anchored. Anchors weaken and fade on their own unless they are strengthened. In my book How to get over anyone in few days I advised everyone to burn the old letters, eat the chocolates and get rid of the gifts if they always remind him of the old relationship
- The horrible feelings people get after breakups: One of the main reasons people fail to get over someone is the bad feelings they get after breakups however if you knew that most of these bad feelings are not by any means related to the person you loved you will get over him easily!! Your hurt Ego, your worries about the future, your loneliness, losing an intimate partner who used to listen to you and losing a good pain killer are all factors that can make you feel bad after a breakup and are all not related to the person you loved but to your own personal problems (seeHow to feel better after a breakup
How to get over anyone in 2 weeks
Based on the previous facts here are some advices that will surely help you get over anyone quickly:- Tell your subconscious mind that its over: In my article the anatomy of acceptance I explained how acceptance never happens before hope is completely lost. We do accept the death of the loved ones because we become convinced that they will never come back. In order to forget someone you must insist on hearing from him that it’s impossible to get back together. You should even attend his wedding if you can in order to let your subconscious mind believe that its over.
- He was the one and there will be another one: there are lots of "ones" awaiting you out there but its just the effect of the media programming that made you believe that you won’t find someone else like him. Yes you might not find the same exact person again but you can surely find someone better!! (someone who matches more conditions of your subconscious criteria)
- Stop bargaining: If you kept going to the same places you used to go to together, kept listening to sad songs or kept day dreaming then you are sending clear message to your subconscious mind that you still have hope!! As long as hope is there acceptance would never happen. If he bought you a chocolate when you were together then Eat it now to prove to your mind that its over!!
- Was it love addiction?: if you are like the majority who seek relationships to get over other personal problems like loneliness, lack of confidence or depression then its time to fix yourself and deal with these personal problems so that you don’t fall in love with a person just to feel good instead of falling in love with him because you really like him
We can summarize all of the previous advices into few lines, the main reasons people never recover from breakups quickly is that they have built false beliefs that were fed to them by the media. As time passes they keep strengthening these beliefs through incorrect acts and that’s why they never recover quickly.Correct your beliefs, stop strengthening the memories and they will dry and fall just like an old leaf. Getting over someone is easy but you need to do it the right way.
| [DRAFT] are u feeling down.. | for everyone |
Are you feeling down?
Sometimes you find your life flowing in directions that you haven't anticipated. You may feel depressed about something that happened in the past, or anxious about something that may yet happen. You may find yourself feeling lonely even when you're not alone, unsuccessful although you’ve tried hard, lacking confidence although you lack no resources, broken-hearted because someone left you, or even worse - feeling bad without knowing why.
Unfortunately, unlike machines or gadgets, which are easy enough to fix, knowing how to treat one’s own problems may elude many. The human being is the ultimate machine, if you know how to use it well; you will be able to take control of your life instead of letting it control you. You will be able to succeed under any conditions and you will be able to live a happy life.
How to get over someone
Contrary to common beliefs you can get over any person in few weeks if you applied the right advices. I know you are now wondering how would that happen or even thinking that its impossible but the reason you are wondering is that the media has programmed you to believe that breakups let people suffer for extended periods while in fact reality is completely different.
As a result of the tens of romantic movies that you saw, the hundreds of the romantic songs that you listened to and the thousands of words you heard from uneducated people you started to believe that getting over someone is very hard if not impossible.
In this article I will I show you the right way to get over someone by giving you solid facts and tips that are backed by psychology and that were tested successfully on millions of people who visited 2knowmyself.
Why do we fail to forget someone quickly
Before you can learn how to get over someone quickly you must first understand the reasons that prevent you from forgetting that person. One or more of the following reasons is usually the cause behind not being able to get over someone:
- The relationship was a method of compensation: Of course without being aware, lots of people seek relationships because they feel lonely, lack confidence or need emotional support. Had those people learned how to deal with loneliness, build their confidence and become emotionally stronger they wouldn’t have fell in love with someone to fill an emotional Gap but they would have chosen someone that they really loved
- Thinking that he was the one: I have explained numerous times that we fall in love with those who match most of our subconscious criteria. This simply means that finding someone who matches 50 conditions out of the 70 we have doesn’t mean that we can’t find someone who matches 55. There are hundreds of potential partners awaiting us out there but the media has programmed our minds to believe that only one suits us (see The psychology of love)
- Everything reminds me of him: When Pavlov made his fist experiment on dogs he found that he could associate the sound of the bell with meal time so that the dog salivates whenever the bell is rang. After the bell was rang several times without the meal being served the dog stopped salivating. In short, even if everything reminds you of a person, as long as you don’t give up to these thoughts they will fade away quickly as the time passes (see Everything reminds me of him).
- The effect of the media: You might ask yourself why didn’t the great memories fade yet even though the relationship ended long ago? Because you have been strengthening them by listening to sad music, romantic songs, remembering the person and keeping the small items that remind you of him at home. When one event reminds us of the other both events are said to be anchored. Anchors weaken and fade on their own unless they are strengthened. In my book How to get over anyone in few days I advised everyone to burn the old letters, eat the chocolates and get rid of the gifts if they always remind him of the old relationship
- The horrible feelings people get after breakups: One of the main reasons people fail to get over someone is the bad feelings they get after breakups however if you knew that most of these bad feelings are not by any means related to the person you loved you will get over him easily!! Your hurt Ego, your worries about the future, your loneliness, losing an intimate partner who used to listen to you and losing a good pain killer are all factors that can make you feel bad after a breakup and are all not related to the person you loved but to your own personal problems (seeHow to feel better after a breakup
How to get over anyone in 2 weeks
Based on the previous facts here are some advices that will surely help you get over anyone quickly:
- Tell your subconscious mind that its over: In my article the anatomy of acceptance I explained how acceptance never happens before hope is completely lost. We do accept the death of the loved ones because we become convinced that they will never come back. In order to forget someone you must insist on hearing from him that it’s impossible to get back together. You should even attend his wedding if you can in order to let your subconscious mind believe that its over.
- He was the one and there will be another one: there are lots of "ones" awaiting you out there but its just the effect of the media programming that made you believe that you won’t find someone else like him. Yes you might not find the same exact person again but you can surely find someone better!! (someone who matches more conditions of your subconscious criteria)
- Stop bargaining: If you kept going to the same places you used to go to together, kept listening to sad songs or kept day dreaming then you are sending clear message to your subconscious mind that you still have hope!! As long as hope is there acceptance would never happen. If he bought you a chocolate when you were together then Eat it now to prove to your mind that its over!!
- Was it love addiction?: if you are like the majority who seek relationships to get over other personal problems like loneliness, lack of confidence or depression then its time to fix yourself and deal with these personal problems so that you don’t fall in love with a person just to feel good instead of falling in love with him because you really like him
We can summarize all of the previous advices into few lines, the main reasons people never recover from breakups quickly is that they have built false beliefs that were fed to them by the media. As time passes they keep strengthening these beliefs through incorrect acts and that’s why they never recover quickly.
Correct your beliefs, stop strengthening the memories and they will dry and fall just like an old leaf. Getting over someone is easy but you need to do it the right way.
How to get over anyone in 2 weeks
Based on the previous facts here are some advices that will surely help you get over anyone quickly:
- Tell your subconscious mind that its over: In my article the anatomy of acceptance I explained how acceptance never happens before hope is completely lost. We do accept the death of the loved ones because we become convinced that they will never come back. In order to forget someone you must insist on hearing from him that it’s impossible to get back together. You should even attend his wedding if you can in order to let your subconscious mind believe that its over.
- He was the one and there will be another one: there are lots of "ones" awaiting you out there but its just the effect of the media programming that made you believe that you won’t find someone else like him. Yes you might not find the same exact person again but you can surely find someone better!! (someone who matches more conditions of your subconscious criteria)
- Stop bargaining: If you kept going to the same places you used to go to together, kept listening to sad songs or kept day dreaming then you are sending clear message to your subconscious mind that you still have hope!! As long as hope is there acceptance would never happen. If he bought you a chocolate when you were together then Eat it now to prove to your mind that its over!!
- Was it love addiction?: if you are like the majority who seek relationships to get over other personal problems like loneliness, lack of confidence or depression then its time to fix yourself and deal with these personal problems so that you don’t fall in love with a person just to feel good instead of falling in love with him because you really like him
We can summarize all of the previous advices into few lines, the main reasons people never recover from breakups quickly is that they have built false beliefs that were fed to them by the media. As time passes they keep strengthening these beliefs through incorrect acts and that’s why they never recover quickly.
Correct your beliefs, stop strengthening the memories and they will dry and fall just like an old leaf. Getting over someone is easy but you need to do it the right way.
| SERMON IN BASRA | for everyone |
By Allah, surely I was in their lead till it took shape with its walls. I did not show weakness or cowardice. My existing march is also like that. I shall certainly pierce the wrong till right comes out of its side.
What (cause of conflict) is there between me and the Quraysh? By Allah, I have fought them when they were unbelievers and I shall fight them when they have been misled. I shall be the same for them today as I was for them yesterday.
By Allah, the Quraysh only take revenge against us because Allah has given us (i.e. the Holy Prophet and his progeny) preference over them. So, we have allowed them into our domain, whereupon they have become as the former poet says:
By my life, you continued drinking fresh milk every morning,
And (continued) eating fine stoned dates with butter;
We have given you the nobility which you did not possess before;
And surrounded (protected) you with thoroughbred horses and tawny-coloured spears (strong spears) (1).
| SERMON IN BASRA | for everyone |
By Allah, surely I was in their lead till it took shape with its walls. I did not show weakness or cowardice. My existing march is also like that. I shall certainly pierce the wrong till right comes out of its side.
What (cause of conflict) is there between me and the Quraysh? By Allah, I have fought them when they were unbelievers and I shall fight them when they have been misled. I shall be the same for them today as I was for them yesterday.
By Allah, the Quraysh only take revenge against us because Allah has given us (i.e. the Holy Prophet and his progeny) preference over them. So, we have allowed them into our domain, whereupon they have become as the former poet says:
By my life, you continued drinking fresh milk every morning,
And (continued) eating fine stoned dates with butter;
We have given you the nobility which you did not possess before;
And surrounded (protected) you with thoroughbred horses and tawny-coloured spears (strong spears) (1).
| About Talhah and az-Zubayr | for everyone |
| SERMON DELIVERED WHEN ALLEGIANCE WAS SWORN TO IMAM ALI (A.S.) | for everyone |
By Allah who sent the Prophet with faith and truth you will be severely subverted, bitterly shaken as in sieving and fully mixed as by spooning in a cooking pot till your low persons become high and high ones become low, those who were behind would attain forward positions and those who were forward would become backward. By Allah, I have not concealed a single word or spoken any lie and I had been informed of this event and of this time.
Beware that sins are like unruly horses on whom their riders have been placed and their reins have been let loose so that they would jump with them in Hell. Beware that piety is like trained horses on whom the riders have been placed with the reins in their hands, so that they would take the riders to Heaven. There is right and wrong and there are followers for each. If wrong dominates, it has (always) in the past been so, and if truth goes down that too has often occurred. It seldom happens that a thing that lags behind comes forward.
ash-Sharif ar-Radi says: In this small speech there is more beauty than can be appreciated, and the quantity of amazement aroused by it is more than the appreciation accorded to it. Despite what we have stated it has so many aspects of eloquence that cannot be expressed nor can anyone reach its depth, and no one can understand what I am saying unless one has attained this art and known its details.
. . . No one appreciates it except those who know (Qur'an, 29:43)
| Delivered in the Battle of Jamal | for everyone |
| MONEY'S WORTH FOR EVERY LITER | for everyone |
Here are some tricks to get more of your money's worth for every litre.
Only buy or fill up your car or bike in the early morning when the ground temperature is still cold. Remember that all service stations have their storage tanks buried below ground. The colder the ground the more dense the fuel, when it gets warmer petrol expands. So, buying in the afternoon or in the evening, your litre is not exactly a litre. In the petroleum business, the specific gravity and the temperature play an important role. 1 degree rise in temperature is a big deal for this business. But the service stations do not have temperature compensation at the pumps.
Another most important tip is to fill up when your tank is HALF FULL. The reason for this is, the more fuel you have in your tank the less is the air occupying its empty space. Petrol evaporates faster than you can imagine.
Another useful information is to avoid filling up if there is a fuel truck pumping into the storage tanks when you stop to buy. Most likely the petrol/diesel is being stirred up as the fuel is being delivered, and you might pick up some of the dirt that normally settles on the bottom.
Another most important tip is to fill up when your tank is HALF FULL. The reason for this is, the more fuel you have in your tank the less is the air occupying its empty space. Petrol evaporates faster than you can imagine.
Another useful information is to avoid filling up if there is a fuel truck pumping into the storage tanks when you stop to buy. Most likely the petrol/diesel is being stirred up as the fuel is being delivered, and you might pick up some of the dirt that normally settles on the bottom.
Hope this will help you get the most value for your money.
posted by ABBAS ALAM @ 02:56
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