| Ziyaarate Aashoora - Importance Rewards and Effects | for everyone |
Ziyaarate Aashoora - Importance
Rewards and Effects |
It is a firmly established fact that just as it is impossible to comprehend and grasp the greatness, excellence, position and status of Ahle Bait (A.S), it is impossible for us to comprehend the connotations, implications and significance of their words and statements in their entirety. Of course, we can have some basic understanding of their words, which makes us realize their high stature and distinction. Ziyaarate Aashoora too falls in a similar category. Its greatness, benefits and rewards cannot be entirely comprehended or enumerated. Hence whatever is being written in this article concerning Ziyaarate Aashoora is like taking a few drops from a vast ocean. As the old Arabic cliché goes, 'If the entire ocean cannot be encircled and seized, then at least take from it to the extent of your thirst.'
Ziyaarate Aashoora: Hadith-e-Qudsi
What else could be a greater merit for this Ziyaarat than to be the 'Word of Allah' (Hadithe Qudsi)? No other Ziyaarat bears this eminence and superiority. The difference between the Holy Quran and Ziyaarate Aashoora is the same as the difference between the Holy Quran and Hadithe Qudsi. If the words from Allah claim to be a miracle from the aspect of meaning and concept, then they are the verses of the Holy Quran. But if there is no claim of miracle from the aspect of meaning and concept, then these divine words are called as 'Hadithe Qudsi'. And if the concept is from Allah, but the words are those of the Holy Prophet (PBUH), then it is called as 'Hadith'. However there is no doubt that this Ziyaarat is Hadithe Qudsi.
Safwan (r.a) narrates that Hazrat Jibraeel (A.S) conveyed this Ziyaarat to Holy Prophet (PBUH) on divine command. We will narrate this incident in detail in the end of this article. What is important at this point is to appreciate that this Ziyaarat is Hadithe Qudsi and it has reached Imam Baqir (A.S) through his noble ancestors who received it from Holy Prophet (A.Sw.a). Imam Baqir (A.S) made 'public' this Ziyaarat for the first time. This is because like all other divine laws that were delayed, the delay in the communication of Ziyaarate Aashoora in the public domain also had a divine rationale.
(Shifa al-Sudoor, p. 51 by Abul Fazl Tehrani)
We will narrate the importance of Ziyaarate Aashoora in the light of traditions later in this article. Now let us take a look at some incidents that highlight the significance of Ziyaarate Aashoora and its recitation.
Ziyaarate Aashoora: Importance
The great and pious jurist, Marhoom Shaikh Jawad b. Shaikh Mashkoor, was a leading jurist of Najaf who died at the age of 90 years in 1337 A.H. He is buried next to his father in a room in the blessed courtyard of the grave of Ameerul Momineen (A.S). This great scholar dreamt in the night of 26 Safar 1332 A.H in which he saw Hazrat Izraeel - the angel of death (A.S). He did salaam to the angel of death and asked him from where he was coming. The angel of death replied 'I am coming from
The next morning, Shaikh Jawad went to Ayatullah Mirza Mohammed Taqi Shirazi and narrated his dream. On hearing this, Ayatullah Mirza Mohammed Taqi began weeping. When people asked him the reason of his grief, he replied 'Mirza Ibrahim Mehlaaki was a pillar of jurisprudence and he has departed from the world.' People said 'But this news was only a dream, while we don't know the fact as yet.' Ayatullah Mirza Taqi replied, 'This was not the dream of an ordinary individual, it was the dream of Shaikh Jawad.' The very next day there was letter informing the residents of Najaf about Mirza Ibrahim Mehlaaki's demise. In this way, the veracity of Shaikh Jawad's dream proved to be true. Subsequently many scholars learnt of this incident from the late Ayatullah Syed Abdul Hadi Shirazi who in turn had personally heard about it from Shaikh Jawad.
(Ziyaarate Aashoora by Nasir Rasti Lahejaani, p. 27)
This incident highlights the significance of reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora regularly.
Ziyaarate Aashoora: Consequences and benefits
Shaheed-e-Mehraab, Ayatullah Dastghaib Shirazi (R.A) narrates an incident from Ayatullah Uzma Shaikh Abdul Kareem Haayeree (R.A), the founder of the Hauz-e-Ilmiyyah in
(Ziyaarate Aashoora - Effects & Miracles, p. 24)
Conclusion
1. This incident not only highlights the effects and consequences of reading Ziyaarate Aashoora, but also the importance of the Ziyaarat itself.
2. People usually recite Ziyaarate Aashoora on behalf of Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s). This incident further highlights the great position of Imam's (a.t.f.s.) mother, Janabe Nargis Khatoon (s.a)
3. The Sunnis vehemently oppose reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora. Yet by reciting the Ziyaarat, even they acknowledged that the Ahle Bait (A.S) are the 'Dispellers of calamities'.
Ziyaarate Aashoora: Emphasis of Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.)
The emperor of the era, the friend of Allah, the chief of the universe, Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) has forcefully stressed the importance of reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora in his letters and sayings.
In his masterpiece, Mafaateeh al-Jenan, the pillar of traditionalists, Shaikh Abbas Qummi (r.a) has mentioned an incident from his teacher, Janab Mirza Husain Tabarsi (r.a) - famous as Mohaddis Noori (r.a). We will not narrate the entire incident but mention only that portion where Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) has emphasized the regular recitation of Ziyaarate Aashoora .
This incident pertains to Janab Syed Ahmed bin Syed Hashim bin Syed Hasan Musawi Rashty. He was a trader from the city of
In this incident, Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.), in the beginning mentions, 'Recite Naafelah Shab' Then he says 'Recite Ziyaarat Jaameah' and then he says 'Recite Ziyaarate Aashoora '. Syed Rashty did not know either Ziyaarat-e-Jaameah or Ziyaarate Aashoora by heart. But the moment Imam (A.S) asked him to recite them regularly, he knew both these Ziyaarats by heart.
Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) helped Syed Rashty to reach his destination. On the way, Imam (A.S) once asked him rhetorically, 'Why don't you recite the Naafelah prayers?' Then he (A.S) repeated thrice 'Naafelah, Naafelah, Naafelah!' Again, Imam (A.S) asked him, 'Why don't you recite Ziyaarate Aashoora?' Then Imam (A.S) reiterated, 'Aashoora, Aashoora, Aashoora!' Once again, Imam (A.S) asked Janab Rashty, 'Why don't you recite Ziyaarat-e-Jaameah?' And then Imam (A.S) emphasized thrice, 'Jaameah, Jaameah, Jaameah!'
Conclusion:
This incident underlines the extraordinary importance of Ziyaarate Aashoora. The fact that Janab Syed Rashty, who had lost his way met Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.), shows his distinction. But the emphasis of Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) on the regular recitation of Ziyaarate Aashoora and Ziyaarat-e-Jaameah points to the fact that Imam-e-Zamana (a.t.f.s.) desires that his (A.S) followers should always remember the tribulations of his grandfather Imam Husain (A.S) and they should always be aggrieved and anguished by the events of Karbala.
'How fortunate are those who have the taufeeq of reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora regularly.'
Ziyaarate Aashoora: Repealing of chastisement
The significance of Ziyaarate Aashoora can be gauged from yet another incident. The previous incident reveals the benefit of Ziyaarate Aashoora for the one who recites it regularly. But the following incident depicts a really strange benefit of Ziyaarate Aashoora. It shows that the one who recites Ziyaarate Aashoora becomes a cause of the forgiveness of sins committed by others!!!
Marhoom Mohaddis Noori (R.A) narrates an incident from Al-Haaj Mulla Hasan Yazdi, who was a pious and virtuous individual and was the caretaker of the shrine of Ameerul Momineen (A.S). He was very religious and was always preoccupied in worship and Ziyaarat. Mulla Hasan, in turn narrates about Mohammed Ali Yazdi who too was a very respectable, devout and virtuous person. He too would always spend his time in acts of worship and in matters related to the Hereafter. Janab Mohammed Ali used to spend his nights in worship in a particular place in
Aqa Mohammed Ali got up with a start from his sleep. He did not know who Ashraf Haddad was nor did he know where he lived. He went to the iron market, inquired about him and reached his house. Janab Mohammed Ali asked him 'Did you have a wife?' He replied 'Yes. She died last night and I buried her at so and so place' Janab Mohammed Ali asked him 'Had she gone for the Ziyaarat of Imam Husain (A.S)?' The man replied 'No. But why are you asking me all this?' Janab Mohammed Ali narrated to him the dream that he had seen. After hearing the entire incident, the blacksmith said 'My wife was very particular and regular in reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora'
(Daarus Salaam, Mohaddis Noori (R.A), vol. 2, p.268; Shifa al-Sudur, p. 52 - Persian Translation; Mafaateeh al-Jenan)
'O Allah! You bestow such an honor to my grave that it too a place of Imam Husain's (A.S) visits! O Allah! Grant me the taufeeq to recite Ziyaarate Aashoora regularly!'
Ziyaarate Aashoora: In the light of traditions
The above incidences clearly convey the virtues and significance of Ziyaarate Aashoora - both in this world and the Hereafter. Now let us have a look at those traditions that indicate and highlight the merits of reciting Ziyaarate Aashoora and also substantiate the above incidents.
Tradition 1
Alqamah bin Mohammed ibn Hazrami (R.A) narrates 'I requested Imam Baqir (A.S) to teach me a dua that I should recite on the day of Aashoora after the reciting the Ziyaarat of Imam Husain (A.S) - from near his (A.S) grave or from a distance.' Imam (A.S) replied
'O Alqamah, whenever you wish to recite the Ziyaarat of Imam Husain (A.S), you first perform two units of prayers. Then turn towards the grave of Imam Husain (A.S) and while pointing towards it, you first say 'Salam' and then 'Takbir'. Thereafter, you recite this Ziyaarat (Ziyaarate Aashoora). If you do so, then as if you have recited the supplication read by the angels while visiting the grave of Imam Husain (A.S). Moreover, when you recite this Ziyaarat, then
(a) Allah will increase your grade ten lakh times
(b) You will be included among those people who were martyred along with Imam Husain (A.S)
(c) On the day of Judgment, you will be included among the martyrs
(d) You will get the reward of all the Prophets (A.S) who have visited the grave of Imam Husain (A.S) from the day that he (A.S) was martyred till date.
And the way of reciting the Ziyaarat is like this…'
(Then Imam (A.S) recited the entire Ziyaarate Aashoora for Alqamah (R.A))
(Kaamil al-Ziyaarat,
At the end of this tradition, Imam Baqir (A.S) says
'O Alqamah, if you can, then recite this Ziyaarat every day send salutations to Imam Husain (A.S). You will get all the rewards (of the one who recites it on the day of Aashoora).'
Tradition 2
Imam Sadiq (A.S) says:
'The one who visits the grave of Imam Husain (A.S) on the day of Aashoora or spends the night near his (A.S) grave, then it is as if he attained martyrdom along with him (A.S).'
(Kaamil al-Ziyaarat, Chapter 71, p. 191)
(Many Ziyaaraat have been mentioned that can be recited on the day of Aashoora. But the Ziyaarat mentioned by Janab Safwan (R.A) is more common and it is Hadith-e-Qudsi).
Tradition 3
Imam Sadiq (A.S) informs,
'The one who does the Ziyaarat of Imam Husain (A.S) on the day of Aashoora, then paradise is obligatory upon him.'
(Behaar al-Anwaar, vol. 101, p.104)
Tradition 4
Imam Sadiq (A.S) mentions,
'The one who visits the grave of Imam Husain (A.S) knowing his right (of Imamate) then it is as if he has done the Ziyaarat of Allah on the Arsh.'
(Kaamil al-Ziyaarat, Chapter 71, p. 192)
Tradition 5
Abdullah bin Fazl narrates, 'Once I was in the presence of Imam Sadiq (A.S) when a person from the city of 'Toos' came to visit him (A.S). He asked. 'O son of the Messenger of Allah (PBUH)! What do you have to say for the one who visits the grave of
'O Toosi! The one who visits the grave of
(Behaar al-Anwaar, vol. 101, p. 23)
As we are discussing about the fifth personality of the five holy personas (A.S), we will suffice with the narration of five traditions. Those who would like to go deeper in this topic can refer to 'Kamil al-Ziyaarat, Behaar al-Anwaar vol. 101, Thawaab al-A'maal and 'Shifa al-Sudur'.
When we ponder over the above traditions, we realize the miraculous nature and effects of Ziyaarate Aashoora. These traditions also bear testimony to the veracity of the earlier incidents.
'Door of Imam Husain (A.S)' - Universal Door of Mercy
In the sermon of 'Shabaniyyah', Holy Prophet (PBUH) while explaining the greatness of the month of Ramdhaan says '… In it the doors of paradise are open…' Elucidating this statement of Holy Prophet (PBUH), Shaikh Jafar Shushtry (r.a) brings forth a very subtle point. About the 'doors of paradise' he says 'If you are unable to reach the 'doors of paradise' (i.e. you are unable to enter paradise due to your bad actions) then there is yet another door that leads to paradise. No one is deprived of it and it is very easy to reach that gate. Anyone, wherever he is or in whatever condition he is in, can reach to the infinite mercy of Allah through this door. Do you want to know the name of this door so that you can enter paradise? It is door of Imam Husain (A.S). And the way to reach it is through humility and mourning for Aba Abdillah (A.S)' Shaikh continues, 'If you cannot find the path to paradise through repentance (as there are conditions for repentance and our bad actions act as hurdles) then the love of Imam Husain (A.S) is an enormous grace. Regardless of the extent of a person's sins and his non-repentance (in the true sense), yet no one is turned away from paradise because of this bounty (of the love of Imam Husain (A.S)) he will not be deprived of Allah's compassion.'
(Ziyaarate Aashoora by Nasir Rashty, p. 35)
O Allah! For the sake of Imam Husain (A.S), you grant me honor and nobility near You in this world and the Hereafter!
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| WHAT A WAY TO BEGIN A SPEECH !! | for everyone |
An ingenious example of speech and politics occurred recently in the United Nations Assembly and made the world community smile.
The Palestinian Representative's Speech at the UNError! Filename not specified.
'Before beginning my talk I want to tell you a story about Moses. When he struck the rock and it brought forth water, he thought, 'What a good opportunity to have a bath!'
He removed his clothes, put them aside on the rock and entered the water.
When he got out and wanted to dress, his clothes had vanished.
An Israeli had stolen them.'
The Israeli representative jumped up furiously and shouted, 'What are you talking about? There were no Israelis there then!'
The Palestinian representative smiled and said:
'And now that we have made that quite clear, I will begin my speech.'
'Before beginning my talk I want to tell you a story about Moses. When he struck the rock and it brought forth water, he thought, 'What a good opportunity to have a bath!'
He removed his clothes, put them aside on the rock and entered the water.
When he got out and wanted to dress, his clothes had vanished.
An Israeli had stolen them.'
The Israeli representative jumped up furiously and shouted, 'What are you talking about? There were no Israelis there then!'
The Palestinian representative smiled and said:
'And now that we have made that quite clear, I will begin my speech.'
(sent by sis Mariam R. Jiwa)
| WILADAT OF BIBI FATEMA ZEHRA (S.A.) MUBARAK TO ALL | for everyone |
| Name: Fatima | Title: Al-Zahra, Sayyidatun Nisa |
| Designation: One of Fourteen Infa. | Kunyat: Um-ul-Aimah, Um-e-Abiha |
| Father: Muhammad Ibn-e-Abdulla | Mother: Khadija Bint-e-Khuwailid |
| Born: 20th Jumada 2 (615 AD) |
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| INTERESTING FACTS | for everyone |
| JANNATUL-BAQI. ANOTHER EVIL STEP OF WAHABIS | for you |
JANNATUL-BAQI.
| JANNATUL-BAQI. ANOTHER EVIL STEP OF WAHABIS | for everyone |
JANNATUL-BAQI. ANOTHER STEP OF WAHABIS
Salam to all
Sad to inform you that in janat-ul-baki you can not even see now the graves of ahlay-e-bayt. In the past, It was always suprising when you entered in janat-ul-baki and move where you want but not near these graves. However you could see them with a distance of around 50 meters, although so-called Mutaway distribed you and try to afraid you and it was difficult to pray or read ziarat. Now they have covered these holy graves with wall so that you even not get eye contact with the graves.
The Saudi security authorities put new barriers and Surrounded graves of four imams of the Ahl ul Bayt (pbuh) in holy Baqi cemetery to prevent visitors from seeing.
The pilgrims were surprised and got angry on Wednesday morning when they encountered barriers around the graves of Imams Al-Hassan bin Ali bin Abi Talib (as) and Imam Mohammed Baqir (as) and Imam Jafar Sadiq (as) and Imam Sajjad (as), the most prominent Shiite imams.
Saudi extremist Wahhabi had set up Barriers around the graves of Imams in the cemetery adjacent to the campus of Prophet Mohammad, to pressure pilgrims especially Shiites.
Meanwhile, Saudi security forces deployed in the cemetery that the barriers will be permanent.
Setting up these barriers cause resentment of pilgrims coming from various Islamic countries.
According to this; Grand Ayatollah Safi Golpayegani said
“Saudi government’s construction of barrier before Baqi’a Cemetery is betraying history of Islam.” the grand source of jurisprudence added, “Unfortunately the Saudi government commits this betrayal and no one reacts to the act either.”
He reiterated, “Such moves would lead to full annihilation of the historic monuments of the Islamic history and the future generations would thus be left with no heritage as reference.”
Ayatollah Safi Golpayegani stressed, “Unfortunately the Saudi government at our time resorts to annihilation of any sign that is left from the prophethood era.”
The grand source of jurisprudence reiterated, “Committing such moves is regarded as anti-cultural today, since how can we claim ten thousand years from now that we had once had registered records of our Islamic civilization?”
(sent by sis Mariam R. Jiwa)
| Brain Damaging Habits | for you |
Brain Damaging Habits
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level.
This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air
decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest.. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the
death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level.
This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air
decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest.. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the
death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
| How to Have a Great Conversation with Anyone | for everyone |
How to Have a Great Conversation with Anyone
The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.
With these tips you will be well on your way to having a good, meaningful and entertaining conversation with anyone!
1. Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
2. Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
3. Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
4. Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
5. Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, “It’s much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you.” If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
6. Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say “Yes,” “I see,” “That’s interesting,” or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
7. Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
8. Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your “speaking turn” to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
9. Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
* It is the differences in people–and their conversation–that make them interesting.
* Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
* A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
* Try to omit the word “but” from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word “and”, it has less of an antagonistic effect.
10. Consider playing devil’s advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like “I agree, and…”). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
11. Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you’ll transition smoothly into further conversation!
12. Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
Warnings
* Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
* Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
* Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don’t venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it’s fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
* Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
* Try not to nod or respond with “Yes” and “I see” so much. It might make the person think you are bored and sometimes it may seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
* If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of thing to say, it is always a good solution.
* Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like what you have to say is more important than what the other person has to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own
The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.
With these tips you will be well on your way to having a good, meaningful and entertaining conversation with anyone!
1. Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
2. Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
3. Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
4. Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
5. Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, “It’s much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you.” If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
6. Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say “Yes,” “I see,” “That’s interesting,” or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
7. Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
8. Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your “speaking turn” to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
9. Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
* It is the differences in people–and their conversation–that make them interesting.
* Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
* A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
* Try to omit the word “but” from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word “and”, it has less of an antagonistic effect.
10. Consider playing devil’s advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like “I agree, and…”). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
11. Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you’ll transition smoothly into further conversation!
12. Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
Warnings
* Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
* Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
* Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don’t venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it’s fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
* Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
* Try not to nod or respond with “Yes” and “I see” so much. It might make the person think you are bored and sometimes it may seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
* If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of thing to say, it is always a good solution.
* Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like what you have to say is more important than what the other person has to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own
| Brain Damaging Habits | for everyone |
Brain Damaging Habits
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level.
This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air
decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest.. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the
death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level.
This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air
decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest.. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the
death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.
| BE AWARE | for everyone |
AS RECEIVED --CONTENTS NOT VERIFIED
PLEASE SPREAD THIS TO AS MANY PEOPLE AS YOU CAN, HELP SAVE LIVES OF OTHERS.
READ CAREFULLY
PEOPLE IN DUBAI SHOPPING MALLS AND CROWDED STREETS (like: Nasir
square/sheikh Zayed road/emirates mall/Deira city centre) might approach you to buy a perfume if you refuse they may still insist you try the sample smell. The smell has a killing gas, which will eventually kill you.
Reported by the UAE government and Dubai police 18 people have already died and 35 are still in hospital.
Please pass this message around to everyone you know, or may know via e-mail.
Beware: do not, I repeat, do not smell any perfumes from any random people outside, unless they are from authorized agents in proper perfume stores.
(recd by bro Najmuddin- contents not verified)
| A BEAUTIFUL POEM | for everyone |
A brave man was Ali
The Lion Of God, the Prophet's deputy
His father was the chief of the clan,
He was a good and pious man.
His mother was entirely free from blame.
Fatema binte Asad was her name.
His cousin, the prophet was brought up by these two,
Children they'd had and quite a few too.
In Kaaba our first Imam was born,
Near the very early hours of dawn.
When his eyes opened for the very first time,
He was met with the Prophet's face sublime.
The Prophet wished to adopt Ali,
To relieve his guardians of a responsibility.
Once the prophet had a feast,
With a tiny amount of things to eat.
Some meat, some bread and some milk to drink,
Filled the appetites to the brink.
But the food remained the same as before,
Not any less, not any more.
The invited men were from his kin
He wanted them to repent their sin
Advising them to accept the Faith,
And helping him to propagate.
When the Prophet asked if they would,
Only Ali whole-heartedly stood.
Gradually more people chose Islam.
So they might be free from any harm.
It was of course for their very own good,
Not only in this but afterwards too.
The Quraish had troubled the Muslims for a long time now,
How they survived? God knows how!
The Prophet's life was not at stake,
Ali thought and acted straight.
He done something very brave,
Which could have led him to his grave.
For on the Prophet's bed he slept
While into the night the Prophet crept
From Makkah to Medina the Prophet had gone.
He traveled by night and rested by dawn.
Soon Ali came to Medina too,
To unite with his cousin, the last Rasool.
The Prophet made progress to preach Islam
He also invited Christians from Najran
The Christian and Muslim talked on and on.
The Christian insisted God had a son.
On this point the two sides didn't agree,
So a Mubahala there was to be.
From the Prophet's side, five people went
Five people whom God had sent,
One heavenly lady and four pious men,
The Prophet, Ali, Fatema and Hasnain.
The five faces shown so radiantly,
That the Christian notices this obviously.
And so from Mubahala they declined.
As the wrath of God came to their mind.
Ali was also one of the five under the Kisa,
With the Prophet, Hasnain and Fatema.
The Prophet loved his Ahl-e-bait.
And about them he often said.
My Ahl-e-bait are the Ark of Nooh,
The boat that will help save you.
The strong rope of God that leads to the Heavens,
From the fire of Hell that menacingly threatens.
The door of forgiveness, the purified ones,
They will save fathers, mothers, daughters and sons.
Ali fought many battles again and again,
Badr, Ohad, Khandaq, Khyber and Honain.
Prophet loved Ali there is no doubt,
On many occasions he pointed out,
I am the City of Knowledge and Ali is its Gate.
He is the most equitable judge, the embodiment of faith.
On the Prophet's last pilgrimage to Makkah and back.
The Prophet proclaimed on a camel's hack,
I must tell you something before I depart,
My Ahl-e-bait and Qur'an will never part.
But the most important thing for Muslims and Islam,
Is to accept Ali as Maula of those whose Maula I am.
The Lion Of God, the Prophet's deputy
His father was the chief of the clan,
He was a good and pious man.
His mother was entirely free from blame.
Fatema binte Asad was her name.
His cousin, the prophet was brought up by these two,
Children they'd had and quite a few too.
In Kaaba our first Imam was born,
Near the very early hours of dawn.
When his eyes opened for the very first time,
He was met with the Prophet's face sublime.
The Prophet wished to adopt Ali,
To relieve his guardians of a responsibility.
Once the prophet had a feast,
With a tiny amount of things to eat.
Some meat, some bread and some milk to drink,
Filled the appetites to the brink.
But the food remained the same as before,
Not any less, not any more.
The invited men were from his kin
He wanted them to repent their sin
Advising them to accept the Faith,
And helping him to propagate.
When the Prophet asked if they would,
Only Ali whole-heartedly stood.
Gradually more people chose Islam.
So they might be free from any harm.
It was of course for their very own good,
Not only in this but afterwards too.
The Quraish had troubled the Muslims for a long time now,
How they survived? God knows how!
The Prophet's life was not at stake,
Ali thought and acted straight.
He done something very brave,
Which could have led him to his grave.
For on the Prophet's bed he slept
While into the night the Prophet crept
From Makkah to Medina the Prophet had gone.
He traveled by night and rested by dawn.
Soon Ali came to Medina too,
To unite with his cousin, the last Rasool.
The Prophet made progress to preach Islam
He also invited Christians from Najran
The Christian and Muslim talked on and on.
The Christian insisted God had a son.
On this point the two sides didn't agree,
So a Mubahala there was to be.
From the Prophet's side, five people went
Five people whom God had sent,
One heavenly lady and four pious men,
The Prophet, Ali, Fatema and Hasnain.
The five faces shown so radiantly,
That the Christian notices this obviously.
And so from Mubahala they declined.
As the wrath of God came to their mind.
Ali was also one of the five under the Kisa,
With the Prophet, Hasnain and Fatema.
The Prophet loved his Ahl-e-bait.
And about them he often said.
My Ahl-e-bait are the Ark of Nooh,
The boat that will help save you.
The strong rope of God that leads to the Heavens,
From the fire of Hell that menacingly threatens.
The door of forgiveness, the purified ones,
They will save fathers, mothers, daughters and sons.
Ali fought many battles again and again,
Badr, Ohad, Khandaq, Khyber and Honain.
Prophet loved Ali there is no doubt,
On many occasions he pointed out,
I am the City of Knowledge and Ali is its Gate.
He is the most equitable judge, the embodiment of faith.
On the Prophet's last pilgrimage to Makkah and back.
The Prophet proclaimed on a camel's hack,
I must tell you something before I depart,
My Ahl-e-bait and Qur'an will never part.
But the most important thing for Muslims and Islam,
Is to accept Ali as Maula of those whose Maula I am.
(( (By: Nasim-i-Sehr
Poetess: Zainab Kazem| Asian Bridal Makeup Tips | for everyone |
Asian Bridal Makeup Tips
Makeup for Asian Brides: A person’s wedding day is of course the most memorable day in a person’s life. And being the people who are getting married it brings right in the middle of everyone’s attention. And it becomes all the more important for them to look at their best on this very important day of their lives. Putting time and thought into your Asian bridal makeup will make everything go smoothly and leave you looking gorgeous for your big day.
Asian bridal wedding makeup is a vital part of an Asian wedding. Brides want to look stunning but not overdone. Radiant, sophisticated Asian wedding makeup is simple if you remember the following tips.
Asian Bridal Makeup Tips
Eye Shadow:
* First apply foundation on your eyelids. On top, apply a nude hue eye shadow as this creates a perfect base for the color. This keeps the colors in place and adds intensity.
* You should brush a deep bronze hue into the eye’s contour. Then, apply a softer hue of bronze over the outer part of the eyelid.
* Apply a deep shade of copper to the middle section of the lower eyelid. Apply a creamy color on the inner lid corner. Use the same color to highlight the brow bone. This combination of colors enhances the eyes.
* You should then blend the colors evenly using a brush. To add depth to the look, apply a red eye shadow into the contour crease. Remember to blend any harsh lines.
* You can dab a bit of glitter to the middle section of the eyelid. This adds a touch of glamour to your look.
Eyelashes:
* You should apply a mascara to the top eyelashes. For dramatic eyes, you can wear false eyelashes. After all, it’s your big wedding!
* You should next fill in your eyebrows with eyebrow powder. Apply it with an angled brush. To keep it in shape, you can comb eyebrow gel through it.
* Now, apply a black liquid eyeliner along the eyelash line. For a traditional wide-eyed look, flick it upwards.
Foundation:
* Apply a foundation to the rest of your face using a brush. You should blend it down the neck. To achieve a professional finish, Naveeda suggests to use good quality brushes.
* Now, hide any imperfections like blemishes or flaws using a concealer. Apply it with your fingertips and blend it evenly into the foundation.
* Set or fix the foundation with loose, translucent powder.
Blusher:
* As it is your special day,Naveeda suggests to use blusher in a little excessive amount. Apply it on the apples of your cheeks. Sweep along the cheek bones.
* To get rid of any harsh lines, use a large soft brush and gently dust over loose powder.
Lips:
* First line your lips with a lip liner. Try to soften the lip line with a brush.
* Now, fill in your lips with a deep red color lipstick. You can blend a bronze lipstick for a opulent, rich look.
* To add the final touch, dab on some gold lipgloss to make the lips appear more fuller.
Makeup for Asian Brides: A person’s wedding day is of course the most memorable day in a person’s life. And being the people who are getting married it brings right in the middle of everyone’s attention. And it becomes all the more important for them to look at their best on this very important day of their lives. Putting time and thought into your Asian bridal makeup will make everything go smoothly and leave you looking gorgeous for your big day.
Asian bridal wedding makeup is a vital part of an Asian wedding. Brides want to look stunning but not overdone. Radiant, sophisticated Asian wedding makeup is simple if you remember the following tips.
Asian Bridal Makeup Tips
Eye Shadow:
* First apply foundation on your eyelids. On top, apply a nude hue eye shadow as this creates a perfect base for the color. This keeps the colors in place and adds intensity.
* You should brush a deep bronze hue into the eye’s contour. Then, apply a softer hue of bronze over the outer part of the eyelid.
* Apply a deep shade of copper to the middle section of the lower eyelid. Apply a creamy color on the inner lid corner. Use the same color to highlight the brow bone. This combination of colors enhances the eyes.
* You should then blend the colors evenly using a brush. To add depth to the look, apply a red eye shadow into the contour crease. Remember to blend any harsh lines.
* You can dab a bit of glitter to the middle section of the eyelid. This adds a touch of glamour to your look.
Eyelashes:
* You should apply a mascara to the top eyelashes. For dramatic eyes, you can wear false eyelashes. After all, it’s your big wedding!
* You should next fill in your eyebrows with eyebrow powder. Apply it with an angled brush. To keep it in shape, you can comb eyebrow gel through it.
* Now, apply a black liquid eyeliner along the eyelash line. For a traditional wide-eyed look, flick it upwards.
Foundation:
* Apply a foundation to the rest of your face using a brush. You should blend it down the neck. To achieve a professional finish, Naveeda suggests to use good quality brushes.
* Now, hide any imperfections like blemishes or flaws using a concealer. Apply it with your fingertips and blend it evenly into the foundation.
* Set or fix the foundation with loose, translucent powder.
Blusher:
* As it is your special day,Naveeda suggests to use blusher in a little excessive amount. Apply it on the apples of your cheeks. Sweep along the cheek bones.
* To get rid of any harsh lines, use a large soft brush and gently dust over loose powder.
Lips:
* First line your lips with a lip liner. Try to soften the lip line with a brush.
* Now, fill in your lips with a deep red color lipstick. You can blend a bronze lipstick for a opulent, rich look.
* To add the final touch, dab on some gold lipgloss to make the lips appear more fuller.
| WHAT IF THERE ISN'T ANYMORE !!! | for everyone |
One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say"I love you."
So while we have it, its best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars... And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.
Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.
Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way... Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way. Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?
I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.
Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do. And just in case I'm gone tomorrow.
I LOVE YA!!!
Live today because tomorrow is not promised..
Best Regards.
(sent by bro Najmuddin)
| Overeating can effect your brain | for everyone |
Overeating can effect your brain
Overeating makes the brain go haywire, prompting a cascade of damage that may cause diabetes, heart disease and other ills, U.S. researchers recently reported. Eating too much appears to activate a usually dormant immune system pathway in the brain, sending out immune cells to attack and destroy invaders that are not there, research found.
The finding, reported in the journal cell, could help explain why obesity causes so many different diseases.
It might also offer a way to prevent obesity itself. Obesity is a growing global problem, with 1.8 billion people estimated to be overweight or obese in 2007. Drugs marketed so far to fight obesity have only limited success and, often, severe side-effects. Obesity causes chronic inflammation throughout the body. This inflammation is found in a range of diseases related to obesity, including heart disease and diabetes.
Immune cells such as macrophages and leukocytes use it but research team found it in the hypothalamus, a part of the brain linked with metabolism in mice and humans alike.
"The hypothalamus is the 'headquarters' for regulating energy," they wrote. They found high levels of the compound there but it was normally inactive.
When they fed mice a high-fat diet, it became extremely active. And when it was active, the body ignored signals from leptin, a hormone that normally helps regulate appetite, and insulin, which helps convert food into energy.
The team has discovered a master switch for the diseases caused by overeating.
Team does not know why this compound would be in the brain and in the immune system but suspects it evolved long ago in primitive animals that do not have the same sophisticated immune system as modern animals, including mice and humans.
"Presumably it played some role to guide the immune defense," they said. "In today's society, this pathway is mobilised by different environmental challenge over-nutrition."
'Knocking out' the gene using genetic engineering kept mice eating normally and prevented obesity. This cannot be done in people but team believes a drug, or even gene therapy might work.With gene therapy, a virus or other so-called vector is used to carry corrective DNA into the body, but the approach is still highly experimental.
Overeating makes the brain go haywire, prompting a cascade of damage that may cause diabetes, heart disease and other ills, U.S. researchers recently reported. Eating too much appears to activate a usually dormant immune system pathway in the brain, sending out immune cells to attack and destroy invaders that are not there, research found.
The finding, reported in the journal cell, could help explain why obesity causes so many different diseases.
It might also offer a way to prevent obesity itself. Obesity is a growing global problem, with 1.8 billion people estimated to be overweight or obese in 2007. Drugs marketed so far to fight obesity have only limited success and, often, severe side-effects. Obesity causes chronic inflammation throughout the body. This inflammation is found in a range of diseases related to obesity, including heart disease and diabetes.
Immune cells such as macrophages and leukocytes use it but research team found it in the hypothalamus, a part of the brain linked with metabolism in mice and humans alike.
"The hypothalamus is the 'headquarters' for regulating energy," they wrote. They found high levels of the compound there but it was normally inactive.
When they fed mice a high-fat diet, it became extremely active. And when it was active, the body ignored signals from leptin, a hormone that normally helps regulate appetite, and insulin, which helps convert food into energy.
The team has discovered a master switch for the diseases caused by overeating.
Team does not know why this compound would be in the brain and in the immune system but suspects it evolved long ago in primitive animals that do not have the same sophisticated immune system as modern animals, including mice and humans.
"Presumably it played some role to guide the immune defense," they said. "In today's society, this pathway is mobilised by different environmental challenge over-nutrition."
'Knocking out' the gene using genetic engineering kept mice eating normally and prevented obesity. This cannot be done in people but team believes a drug, or even gene therapy might work.With gene therapy, a virus or other so-called vector is used to carry corrective DNA into the body, but the approach is still highly experimental.
| MORE ON WOMEN MODESTY, CHASTITY .... | for everyone |
CAN WOMEN TALK TO MEN TO WHOM THEY ARE NOT RELATED UNDER WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES?(UN-MARRIED)
In the Qur'an we have the example of Moses (p) as he is shown to hold a conversation with two women who are not married to him yet. This conversation clearly indicates that women can talk to men who are not related to them, provided it is for important tasks only and not complacent speech, as complacency in speech is not allowed by verse 33:32. The following verses identify the conversation of Moses with the two women who are not related to him.
"And when he came to the water of Madyan, he found on it a group of men watering, and he found besides them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What is the matter with you? They said: We cannot water until the shepherds take away (their sheep) from the water, and our father is a very old man. So he watered (their sheep) for them, then went back to the shade and said: My Sustainer! surely I stand in need of whatever good Thou mayest send down to me. Then one of the two women came to him walking bashfully. She said: My father invites you that he may give you the reward of your having watered for us. So when he came to him and gave to him the account, he said: Fear not, you are secure from the unjust people." (28:23-25)The above example which depicts the conversation of a messenger of Allah with two un-married girls is a clear indicator that women can talk with men who are un related to them provided it is for important tasks only and is done within the limits ordained by Allah.
CAN WOMEN WORK TO EARN A LIVING?
Although the responsibility to provide for the family has been laid upon the man, but if required, women can also work to make a living:
"Do not covet what Allah has favored some with more than He has some others.Men have a share in what they earn and women have a share in what they earn. And ask Allah for His favours. Surely Allah has knowledge of everything." (
RESPECTING THE PRIVACY OF OTHERS- MEETING PEOPLE WITH PERMISSION
"O you who believe! Do not enter houses other than your own houses UNTIL YOU HAVE ASKED PERMISSION and saluted their inmates; this is better for you, that you may be mindful. But if you do not find any one therein, then do not enter them until permission is given to you; and if it is said to you: Go back, then go back; this is purer for you; and Allah is Cognizant of what you do." (24:27-28)
BELIEVING MEN TO MAINTAIN PROPER CONDUCT AS WELL
"Say to the believing men that they cast down their looks and guard their chastity; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do." (24:30)The believers guard their chastity, this trait of theirs is further clarified in Sura 23;
"Successful indeed are the Believers. Those who are humble in their Salat. And who keep aloof from what is vain. And who give Zakat, and who guard their chastity. Except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess (i.e with whom they are married), for they surely are not blameable. But whoever seeks to go beyond that, these are they that exceed the limits;" (23:1-7)
From the verses the dress code can be summed up as follows;
- Dress should be loose enough so that the obvious parts of the body are not made apparent with a woman's movement. (24:31)
- An extra covering (khummar) should be taken over the bosoms. (24:31)
- Only those parts which are already apparent from a woman's adornment, i.e. those areas which are obvious whether a woman walks or remains still...<ma zahara minha> (24:31) are to be kept exposed.
- While talking should not be too complaisant in speech. (33:32)
- Should not bedeck herself too much as she is already made <zeenah> an adornment for mankind. (33:33) & (
One important reason that the Qur'an gives as to why should believing women maintain a proper dress code is given in (33:59) <zalika adna ayyu'rafna fa lla yuzaina> "That (dress code should be maintained) so that they may be recognized and should not be molested."
WHAT ABOUT THE TRADITION OF HEADCOVERS AND VEILS ?
The headcovers are clearly mentioned not in the Qur'an but in the BIBLE as St.Paul's instructions;
"But every Women who prays or prophesies with HER HEAD UNCOVERED dishonors her head, for that is one and the same as if her head were shaved.For if a woman is not covered let her also be shorn But if it is shameful for a woman to be shorn or shaved LET HER BE COVERED." (1 Corinthians 11:5-6)Also traditional Jewish teachings have the type of dress that is famous today among many women i.e. only the eyes showing. Ity should be noted that in the Qur'an we are also informed about some unbelievers who are 'covering themselves up with garments’.Can you identify these people?
"Behold! they fold up their hearts that they may lie hid from Him! Ah even when they COVER THEMSELVES WITH THEIR GARMENTS He knoweth what they conceal and what they reveal: for He knoweth well the (inmost secrets) of the hearts" (11:5)
"And whenever I have called them that Thou (Allah) mayest forgive them, they put their fingers in their ears, COVER THEMSELVES UP WITH THEIR GARMENTS, and persist and are puffed up with pride:" (71:7)
O Allah! Guide us to your straight path! The path of those who have your blessing, not those who qualify themselves for your punishment and nor those who are astray!"And whenever I have called them that Thou (Allah) mayest forgive them, they put their fingers in their ears, COVER THEMSELVES UP WITH THEIR GARMENTS, and persist and are puffed up with pride:" (71:7)
(courtesy :SHAZINMA)
| CAN WOMEN TALK TO MEN | for everyone |
CAN WOMEN TALK TO MEN TO WHOM THEY ARE NOT RELATED UNDER WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES???(UN-MARRIED)
In the Qur'an we have the example of Moses (p) as he is shown to hold a conversation with two women who are not married to him yet. This conversation clearly indicates that women can talk to men who are not related to them, provided it is for important tasks only and not complacent speech, as complacency in speech is not allowed by verse 33:32. The following verses identify the conversation of Moses with the two women who are not related to him.
"And when he came to the water of Madyan, he found on it a group of men watering, and he found besides them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What is the matter with you? They said: We cannot water until the shepherds take away (their sheep) from the water, and our father is a very old man. So he watered (their sheep) for them, then went back to the shade and said: My Sustainer! surely I stand in need of whatever good Thou mayest send down to me. Then one of the two women came to him walking bashfully. She said: My father invites you that he may give you the reward of your having watered for us. So when he came to him and gave to him the account, he said: Fear not, you are secure from the unjust people." (28:23-25)The above example which depicts the conversation of a messenger of Allah with two un-married girls is a clear indicator that women can talk with men who are un related to them provided it is for important tasks only and is done within the limits ordained by Allah.
| INGREDIENTS OF WOMENS DRESS IN PUBLIC | for everyone |
INGREDIENTS OF WOMENS DRESS IN PUBLIC
The areas of body which are to be covered by women in public are mentioned in 24:31. Allah informs us through His messenger:
"Wa qul lilmumina_ti yagdudna min absa_rihin na wa yahfazna furu_jahun na wa la_ yubdina zinatahun na il la_ ma_ zahara minha_ wal yadribna bikhumurihin na ala_ juyu_bihin na wa la_ yubdina zinatahun na ila_ libuu_latihin na au a_ba_ ihin na au a_ba_i buu_latihin na au abna_ ihin na au abna_i buu_latihin na au ikhwa_nihin na au bani ihwa_nihin na au bani ahwa_tihin na au nisa_ ihin na au ma_ malakat aima_nuhun na awit ta_ bi ina ghairil ulil irbati minar rija_li awit tiflil lazina lamyaz haru_ ala_ aura_tin nisa_i wala_ yadrib na biarjulihin na liyulama ma_ yukhfina min zinatihin na wa tu_bu_ ilal la_hi jamian ay yuhal muminu_na la'al lakum tuflihu_" "And say to the Believing Women, to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. And they should not display their adornment <zinatahunne> save what is apparent therefrom. And they should place their covers <khummerehenne> over their bossoms. And they should not display their adornment except to their husbands or their fathers or the fathers of their husbands or their sons or the sons of their husbands or their brothers or their brother's sons or sister's sons` or their women or those whom their right hands posses or Those under their authority other than skillfull men or small children who are not aware of women's nakedness. And they should not strike their feet so as to make known what they hide of their adornment. O Believers turn you all together to Allah so that you may be successful."(24:31)
From the above verse the following points are derived: 1. Women have two types of "zeenah" i.e. beauty and adornment. (a) "ma zahara minha" What is already apparent from their adornment and beauty. (b) "ma yukhfaina min zinata hunne" That which is hidden from their adornment. 2. She is to cover her whole self publicly except those areas which are apparent from her adornment. <ma zahara minha> These areas are the exposed areas which if covered will restrict daily work and have to be uncovered for performing ablution. (see 5:6). The other type of <zeenah> or adornment of a woman identified in the above verse is that which has been called as "ma yukhfaina min zinata hunne" That which is hidden from their adornment. This type of adornment is the one which becomes apparent when a woman strikes her feet or walks. Allah has ordered that this type of adornment be covered at all times. Thus the dress should be loose enough so as not to reveal the shape and features of the body which get
obvious when the woman strikes her feet or walks.
3. They are to place their covers or shrouds over their bosoms. <wa le yazribanne be khummureheene a'laa jyuub'ehenne> In Sura 33:59 they are also ordered to bring over them their over garments <jalabeeb> while going in public:
"O Nabi! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they bring their over-garments nearer to themselves (while in public); this will be more proper, that they may be recognised, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful." (33:59)
In public she is to take "Jilbaab" or over garment over herself according to above verse.
4. With her bosoms covered well, and dress loose enough so as not to reveal her hidden adornment, she is to maintain this type of dress in public in front of all relations. The only exceptions are: (1) Husband
(2) Fathers (Includes Grandparents as well).
(3) The Fathers of their husbands.
(4) Their sons.
(5) The sons of their husbands.
(6) Their brothers.
(7) Their brother's sons.
(8) Their sister's sons`.
(9) Their women.
(10) Those whom their right hands posses.
(11) Those under their authority other than skillfull men.
(12) Small children who are not aware of women's nakedness.
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Passenger details
Name: one of the 'children of Adam'
Origins: from clay
Passenger details
Name: one of the 'children of Adam'
Origins: from clay
Address: Planet earth
Conditions of Travel
Departure: from life on earth,
Conditions of Travel
Departure: from life on earth,
Destination: eternal life,
Stop-over: hotel (2 meters under the ground, for one person)
Duration of flight: from couple of seconds to several millions of years,
Departure time: Time of death (exact time is unknown, but it can happen earlier than expected)
Arrival time: On the Judgement Day (not specified in the timetable.)
Information about Interrogation:
On the arrival to the hotel (grave), incorruptible auditors - two angels: Munkar & Nakir will immediately start questioning.
Questions will follow about your life on earth. For more information, refer to 27th Aiat of Sura "Ibrahim" of the Holy Quran.
Luggage:
Despite the fact that the airplane transfers only one passenger at a time, there are some restrictions on the amount of baggage that you can take with you:
1) You can take with you 5 meters of white cloth.
2) Any items of material life of earth are strictly forbidden.
3) Realistic luggage should consist of good deeds, modest behavior and of well spent time on calling people to Islam.
Important instructions:
All the passengers should remember that tickets are not exchangeable or refundable
This journey is compulsory for representatives of all races, nationalities, religions and of all ages. Delays are not stipulated
Captain: Angel of Death - Asraeel, will not compromise on changing the date and time of departure.
For more information:
Read instructions, which you can find in The Holy Quran and Sunna. You could also consult alims. Please do it as soon as possible. During your journey you will not be provided with Oxygen mask, as your breathing system will be terminated just before the departure time.
Additional instructions:
You don't need to take care of your boarding pass,
passport and other travel documents. To prepare for the flight, pray 5 times a day,
Read the Holy Quran and follow the Sunna to the best of your ability,
and be ready for your flight, as you may have to depart any minute (even now) Final warning:
Final destination depends on you! Please do not waste your time on planet earth. Remeber, you have one-way ticket: Either to Paradise, or GOD FORBIDS to Hell.
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| 5 WAYS TO TAP INTO YOUR CREATIVITY | for everyone |
Creativity is all about finding new ways of approaching situations and solving problems. We cannot restrict creativity to artists: writers, musicians or painters...
Creativity, it's your birthright and is useful skill for everyone and for all walks of life. Unfortunately, it can sometimes be hidden in the everyday life.
If you've ever wanted to unleash your creativity, here are some tips.
1. Journal Your Thoughts.
Write everything down. When you write simply for the joy of writing without any goal or deadline, you free yourself from expectation and can write freely. You may be quite surprised by the kind of ideas you can get once you're in the flow. Even if the majority of it is nonsense, it's those one or two big ideas that make it all worth it. Carry a notebook with you everywhere you go as you never know when you might be struck with the next million dollar idea~Everywhere you go, try to bring your notebook because you never know when your next brilliant millionaire idea can pop up into your mind~Bring a notebook when you are traveling, taking public transportation because you never know when your next millionaire idea can come up into your mind~Everywhere you go, carry your journal with you to be able to fill in your white pages at any time with a new creative idea~Carry your journal with you everywhere you go as you never know when you might be struck with the next brilliant idea}.
2. Go Outside
There's nothing like the great outdoors and a dose of fresh air to boost your mental clarity and get those creative juices flowing. Next time you're facing a tough decision or a mental block in your work, take a walk through nature to clear your mind.
3. Meditate regularly
So often we think that in order to be creative we need to stimulate all of our senses with music, poetry, intellectual conversations art or even wine. When in reality, true moments of creativity come from blank space. Meditation is an excellent way to do exactly that: giving our brains room to create.
4. Read a Good Book or Listen to an Audio Program
We've all heard that reading exercises the mind just as much as lifting weights does for the body, so read often and read everything. To really challenge your mind, read or listen to something you previously had no interest in whatsoever. We often have the habit to read the same books over and over again as for our eating habits. Why not try something such as Quantum Jumping to shake up your inner bookworm?
5. Create a MindMap
Lists are highly logical and engage the analytical left brain while neglecting the creative, right side of the brain. Next time you are tempted to make a list, switch things up and make a mind map instead.
Author : Ajit Kumar Nawalkha
Ajit is a blog writer for self development and personal growth articles.
Creativity, it's your birthright and is useful skill for everyone and for all walks of life. Unfortunately, it can sometimes be hidden in the everyday life.
If you've ever wanted to unleash your creativity, here are some tips.
1. Journal Your Thoughts.
Write everything down. When you write simply for the joy of writing without any goal or deadline, you free yourself from expectation and can write freely. You may be quite surprised by the kind of ideas you can get once you're in the flow. Even if the majority of it is nonsense, it's those one or two big ideas that make it all worth it. Carry a notebook with you everywhere you go as you never know when you might be struck with the next million dollar idea~Everywhere you go, try to bring your notebook because you never know when your next brilliant millionaire idea can pop up into your mind~Bring a notebook when you are traveling, taking public transportation because you never know when your next millionaire idea can come up into your mind~Everywhere you go, carry your journal with you to be able to fill in your white pages at any time with a new creative idea~Carry your journal with you everywhere you go as you never know when you might be struck with the next brilliant idea}.
2. Go Outside
There's nothing like the great outdoors and a dose of fresh air to boost your mental clarity and get those creative juices flowing. Next time you're facing a tough decision or a mental block in your work, take a walk through nature to clear your mind.
3. Meditate regularly
So often we think that in order to be creative we need to stimulate all of our senses with music, poetry, intellectual conversations art or even wine. When in reality, true moments of creativity come from blank space. Meditation is an excellent way to do exactly that: giving our brains room to create.
4. Read a Good Book or Listen to an Audio Program
We've all heard that reading exercises the mind just as much as lifting weights does for the body, so read often and read everything. To really challenge your mind, read or listen to something you previously had no interest in whatsoever. We often have the habit to read the same books over and over again as for our eating habits. Why not try something such as Quantum Jumping to shake up your inner bookworm?
5. Create a MindMap
Lists are highly logical and engage the analytical left brain while neglecting the creative, right side of the brain. Next time you are tempted to make a list, switch things up and make a mind map instead.
Author : Ajit Kumar Nawalkha
Ajit is a blog writer for self development and personal growth articles.
| How To Make Shiny Hair? | for everyone |
How To Make Shiny Hair?
Everybody wants a beautiful, stunning and attractive hair. And for this, they are spending lots of money in expensive products and treatments, but when the effects of these products are over your hair get back to the previous stage. We have some natural tips for your hair, which will help you to achieve a lustrous and shiny hair.
1. If you want to remove dirt from your hair, then add the forth cup of apple cider vinegar in one gallon of condensed water. Now wet your hair with warm water, shampoo it and wash it. Pour two cups of this mixture on your hair and leave it for sometime. Wash your hair with cold water. Use this mixture in every two weeks for clean, silky and smooth hair.
2. One egg, 1 teaspoon olive oil, 1 teaspoon lemon juice, 1 tablespoon castile soap, ½ cup of water and 5 drops of essential oils (according to your choice), then melange all these ingredients and make an egg shampoo. Wash your hair with it and it will give you shiny hair.
3. Take baking soda and massage into your hair and scalp. It helps to absorb oil from your hair and loosens the dead skin on the scalp. Wash your hair with water. In starting hair would be dry but after few weeks you will get a smooth and shiny hair.
4. If you have an oily hair, take two tablespoons of mint in one and half glass of water then boil it for 20 minutes. Pour the mixture and mélange it with the regular used shampoo. Use this mixture on alternative days; it will help to absorb the excess oil from the scalp.
5. In a cup of coconut milk add two tablespoons of gram floor then apply it on your scalp and massage gently. Leave it and wash your hair after five minutes. It is a very effective home remedy for dry hair. Use this method once a week.
6. For normal hair, soak one teaspoon of fenugreek seeds then grind these seeds and apply on your hair. After one hour rinse your hair with water and next day wash your hair with shampoo. It will make your hair glow and beautiful.
Everybody wants a beautiful, stunning and attractive hair. And for this, they are spending lots of money in expensive products and treatments, but when the effects of these products are over your hair get back to the previous stage. We have some natural tips for your hair, which will help you to achieve a lustrous and shiny hair.
1. If you want to remove dirt from your hair, then add the forth cup of apple cider vinegar in one gallon of condensed water. Now wet your hair with warm water, shampoo it and wash it. Pour two cups of this mixture on your hair and leave it for sometime. Wash your hair with cold water. Use this mixture in every two weeks for clean, silky and smooth hair.
2. One egg, 1 teaspoon olive oil, 1 teaspoon lemon juice, 1 tablespoon castile soap, ½ cup of water and 5 drops of essential oils (according to your choice), then melange all these ingredients and make an egg shampoo. Wash your hair with it and it will give you shiny hair.
3. Take baking soda and massage into your hair and scalp. It helps to absorb oil from your hair and loosens the dead skin on the scalp. Wash your hair with water. In starting hair would be dry but after few weeks you will get a smooth and shiny hair.
4. If you have an oily hair, take two tablespoons of mint in one and half glass of water then boil it for 20 minutes. Pour the mixture and mélange it with the regular used shampoo. Use this mixture on alternative days; it will help to absorb the excess oil from the scalp.
5. In a cup of coconut milk add two tablespoons of gram floor then apply it on your scalp and massage gently. Leave it and wash your hair after five minutes. It is a very effective home remedy for dry hair. Use this method once a week.
6. For normal hair, soak one teaspoon of fenugreek seeds then grind these seeds and apply on your hair. After one hour rinse your hair with water and next day wash your hair with shampoo. It will make your hair glow and beautiful.
posted by ABBAS ALAM @ 05:18
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